If you have decided to divorce, you’re probably overwhelmed by the amount of advice available to you on the internet. Some of it is helpful, yet sorting out the good from the bad can be challenging.
One thing you might have heard is that you should avoid using social media until your divorce is finalized. Yet the situation is not as clear-cut as that.
You should probably avoid posting
Anything you post on social media can be seen by someone. It might be seen by your spouse, their friends or legal team. Even if none of these can see your account, they might be able to see something one of your friends has reshared.
People may misinterpret your posts and use them against you. For example, they could:
- Use photos of you out partying to argue that you are irresponsible or have a drinking problem and cannot take care of your children properly
- Use posts of you on vacation or with new purchases to argue that you can afford to pay more in the divorce settlement
So, the best option is to avoid posting anything yourself, and if you are going for a night out or a weekend away, ask your friends to leave you out of anything they post.
You can still monitor social media if you feel your spouse is conning the court
You don’t want to be seen to be spying on your spouse, and it won’t help you to move on either. Yet, it may be worth checking their posts if you feel they are being untruthful with the court, especially if your children’s safety or major assets are at stake.
This is a tricky situation to navigate, so seek legal help if you have concerns about this or anything else concerning your divorce.