Sometimes, it can take several years before married couples really know one another. Despite every marriage having its ups and downs, many couples become stronger as the years go by. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case for every couple.
Some partners don’t like the new things they discover about their spouse as time progresses. A spouse may be shocked to find that their partner displays some controlling behaviors.
What does controlling behavior in a marriage look like?
Dictating where you go and who you see
While it’s natural for spouses to spend most of their time together, they also need to have their own lives. Giving each other space is vital to a healthy marriage. At times, a spouse may restrict the space that they give to their partner. They may try to use guilt trips to discourage them from seeing their friends and other family members. They might encourage or even force them to stay home.
Being married doesn’t mean that you should lose all of your independence. If you’re feeling claustrophobic in the relationship, then this is a cause for concern.
Dictating what you spend
As an equal partner in the relationship, you have a right to know what’s going on with your finances. You also have a right to spend money on the things that you need.
One common form of controlling behavior occurs when a spouse wants to be in control of all of the finances. Your spouse might make lavish purchases and not tell you where the money came from. You may find yourself locked out of bank accounts and savings funds. Financial abuse is a form of controlling behavior and it isn’t something you have to put up with.
Controlling behavior in a marriage is unhealthy and it can harm your well-being in the long term. Seek legal guidance to explore your legal options in more detail.